Communicating Through the Mess of Grief

How to express yourself as a grieving person.

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“They [The five stages of grief] are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. Not everyone goes through all of them or goes in a prescribed order.”

8 Phrases to Use with Family and Friends

1. “I don’t know what I need right now.”

2. “Can you sit with me?” or “Please distract me.”

3. “I would like to talk about [person’s name / the divorce / etc.]. Would you please listen?”

4. “You are so important to me and I love you. But can you find another friend to share with?”

5. “I need you” as code for “Can you run an errand for me?” or “Can you come clean or cook?”

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6. “Please don’t act weird around me. All I ask is that you be extra patient.”

7. “I don’t need you to say the right thing. I do need a hug.”

8. “Just show up for me.”

I write on professional and interpersonal communication to inform how to relate to one another. My Master’s degree is in Rhetoric & Philosophy of Communication.

I write on professional and interpersonal communication to inform how to relate to one another. My Master’s degree is in Rhetoric & Philosophy of Communication.